What people may notice
- Fear before work, school, home or online contact
- Saving evidence or checking devices repeatedly
- Shame, self-doubt or believing the abuse is deserved
- Hypervigilance and sleep disturbance
- Threats, stalking, financial or social control
This pattern may be associated with
Bullying or harassment impact
Trauma or adjustment response
Coercive control or abuse
Workplace, school, legal or safeguarding problem needing practical action
This list is not exhaustive and does not establish a diagnosis.
Look at persistence and impact
- Fear or control is escalating
- Work, school or home no longer feels safe
- You need a safety plan and independent perspective
What should not be overlooked
- Immediate danger, violence, stalking or threats require local emergency, safeguarding or legal resources.
- Do not rely on platform messaging when a device may be monitored.
Information worth noting
- When it began and what was happening at the time.
- Frequency, duration, triggers and what reduces or worsens it.
- Sleep, appetite, energy, medicines, substances and medical conditions.
- Effect on work, study, relationships and daily safety.